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Passion's great. But what if you don't know what you want?

2/20/2015

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Take a journey into the things which you are carrying, the known –
not into the unknown – into what you already know:
your pleasures, your delights, your despairs, you sorrows.
Take a journey into that, that is all you have.
~Jiddu Krishnamurti
A path that ends
She wants her life to be different. More soulful. More spacious. Less restrictive. Not all about work. More about love and connection and beauty.

We played with an exercise called the Ideal Day, in which you wake up in your ideal life 3 years from now and watch yourself walk through a “regular day” in the life of your wildest dreams. You notice where you are and with whom. What you’re wearing. How you spend your day. Throughout the day, you pause and notice how it feels and list three feeling states.

Done at the right time, this exercise can be enlightening, delicious, inspiring.

Done too early, in the midst of burnout, fatigue, or grief it can be paralyzing. Maybe even discouraging.

My client (she is many clients) opened with a spacious morning with her loves, and then she froze. After a slow breakfast and a nice walk…then what? 
The clear path ended.

Then she did what many of us do. She beat herself up for not knowing what she wanted. 

But the fact is, she already knows a lot. She knows how she wants her life feel, even if she can’t yet see what she wants to be doing in her ideal life.

Is this you, too? You know you want something different than what’s happening now. But you don’t know what it looks like.

And it feels crappy.

Because "powerful" women should have big dreams and goals. They should have a vision board for crying out loud. A sense of purpose. Passion.

Right???

Here’s what I believe: “Powerful” women are women who tap into the power of who they are, right where they are. Vulnerable. Raw. Authentic. And that is very powerful (and sexy).

PictureFollow your hot tracks
Let’s start there. 

Yesterday I got to sit in on a call with the author Elizabeth Gilbert. Liz talked about how the ideal of having a singular Passion can be a tyranny to many of us. 

She invites us instead to create a life through the gentler Path of Curiosity. Living a life of Curiosity, she begins each day by asking, “What interests me today, even just a little bit? What makes me want to turn my head, even just a quarter turn? What am I curious about today?” 

These are what Martha Beck calls your “hot tracks.” 

It’s as if you are tracking a wild and mysterious animal through the wilds all for a glimpse of its rare beauty.

You follow each hot track to the next hot track. When the track starts to feel cool, you remember back to your last hot track and circle back.

You don’t have to know what it all looks like right now. As the poet Mary Oliver says, “You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves.”

Try this:

Creek poolReflect on what you already know.
Let’s start with what you already know. That’s where your power is. Here are some questions to help excavate what you want:
  • What do you know right now? What are you clear on? 
  • What do you want your life to feel like?
  • What do you want more of?
  • What don’t you want it to feel like anymore?
  • What’s fun for you? What experiences make you happy?
  • What do you enjoy? (Even if it doesn’t make you money – yet.) 
  • What are you clear that you don’t want anymore?
  • What must change?

These are your hot tracks. Be with them. Follow them. Your next hot track will show up. I promise. 

(Want to go deeper with questions like these? Check out Danielle LaPorte's Desire Map. You'll love it. Even better, check out a Desire Map workshop with the fabulous Tiffiney Lozano).

Declare it! What’s one thing you know already? Let us know in the comments.

10 Comments
Lance link
2/20/2015 02:39:22 am

Nice post. Trying to figure out which direction to swim in a sea of many possibilities can be very hard sometimes.

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Katie Bagby link
2/20/2015 04:14:18 am

Lance - it's so true! I like what Liz Gilbert says about asking herself each day what she's curious about. What is *today's* hot track?

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Carina link
2/20/2015 03:02:34 am

<3 <3 <3

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Katie Bagby link
2/20/2015 04:15:06 am

Much love right back to you, Carina! Thank you for reading!

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Tiffiney Lozano link
2/20/2015 03:17:49 am

Katie I needed this today! A life of curiosity--I love that!
Even us passionate people, sometimes find ourselves in a place where we only know the next right step. AND if we could see all they moves, all the way to the end--what fun would that be anyway?!

Beautiful piece--thank you! I'm humbled to be included : )
Xo

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Katie Bagby link
2/20/2015 04:18:27 am

Tiffiney - Right?! And if we could see all of the moves all of the way to the end, would we still go for it? Or would we just go take a nap? : )
I love that all we have to do is get curious about *today's* hot track.
Thanks for reading and for inspiring me! XO

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Jennifer Castaneda link
2/20/2015 12:25:15 pm

Thank you for putting into words what has going around in my heart, now I can continue being curious while also helping my own clients! xoxoxoo

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Katie Bagby link
2/21/2015 04:36:15 am

Jennifer - may you have lots of fun following your curiosity on your heart's journey! Thanks for connecting! xoxo

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Patti link
2/21/2015 04:13:09 am

Beautiful + thought provoking.

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Katie Bagby link
2/21/2015 04:46:23 am

Thanks so much for taking time to read and for your kind words, Patti! Many joys as you follow your hot tracks!

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